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My fiance wants to have his son be the ring bearer

While this is completely adorable because he's only five, he lives with his mother. I don't think it would be fair that not even a month before the wedding he would meet me and then be in the wedding. Does anyone else think this would be rather a shock to the kid?

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 1:43 AM | Vendors are allowed to participate

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mstewart986

Wedding: 04/17/2010

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mrs.flowers

Wedding: 04/24/2010

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 11:44 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
Since he is only five I really don't think he will take so much of a notice or really care about it, I think he will be more into the attention that he is going to recieve by being the cute ring bearer. At that age I don't think that they really notice much about what is going on around them.

Jaz'min

Simply Classic Events

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 1:36 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with Mrs. Flowers. In addition to the attention he will receive, I believe it could be a good bonding moment btw you and your stepson to be.

Alafia

Alafia Ceremonies LLC

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 2:26 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
As the decision is yours and your fiance's I can share from my experience, when children are included step children, or half children they feel like they belong, acceptance, and a part of the new family. If he wants to be included by all means I would include him. We include children in the roles of ring bearer, flower girl and most often during a family sand ceremony. The keepsake vase with their sand joined with their new family keeps the memory alive when they look at it. They remember pouring their own sand, their own color they selected, and feeling apart of the wedding day.

Mrs. Steptoe2010

Married: 02/13/2010

Posted On: Nov 23, 2009 at 8:28 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
DON'T DO IT...RECONSIDER. NAW, I'M JUST KIDDING. MY FIANCE' WANTS HIS 8 1/2 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER TO BE THE FLOWER GIRL WITH MY 4 YR OLD. SO I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO EITHER.

Mary Kay

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 11:10 AM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I definitely agree with pp. Since he's only 5, he probably won't mind that he just met you, and it will make him feel like he's going to be included in Daddy's new life, and not forgotten just because he got married to someone other than Mommy. I think it's a great idea! I have the opposite problem, I can't find a ring bearer!

The Wedding Planner

Mid-South Wedding & Event Planners'

Posted On: Nov 24, 2009 at 3:55 PM \| Flag As Inappropriate
I think its fine to have them in the wedding they are to young to understand. They will be excited to get all the attention. Don't worry ladies it will be fine. Enjoy your wedding day!!!

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